Happiness is achieved by interacting with other human beings. Unfortunately that dependency on people may hurt your chances of ever being truly happy.
When you see someone at the movies, on vacation or at the bar alone, you tend to think something is wrong. But chances are they may be enjoying themselves just as much as you are with all of your ‘friends.’ Being solo encourages you to go places and do things that you want to do instead of depending on others for your own experiences.
Conquering your fear of being alone is no easy task. Our culture promotes having a lot of friends and being social whether in person or online. But you need time to be alone to reflect on you and your personal development.
Always having to be around people can be a distraction from getting things done for you. You never have time to focus on yourself because someone always need stuff from you. And it’s easy to get your attention whether it’s through text, phone, Instagram, email and more. The more you make yourself available to everyone else, the less time you have to work on the person who probably matters the most.
If you are making an effort to grow and develop, you must embrace the concept of doing things alone. As you grow and your outlook on life changes, it’s possible that your associations due to obligation are hurting your chances of reaching your goals and enjoying your life. If your energy and outlook don’t align with the people you are spending your time with, you may need to move on and go at it alone.
Here are 6 reasons why it’s important to do things alone.
You are more creative…
Doing things by yourself can help get your creativity going. Disconnecting from people can help inspire you to come up with the most unique ideas. Studies show that people who seek solitude are more creative.
You regulate your emotions…
When you’re always around other people, you are always trying to figure out other people’s emotions. In doing so, you may lose touch with your own. Being alone will help you manage your own feelings and allow you to read others better since you fully understand yours.
You become more independent…
A surefire way to build self-confidence is to learn to enjoy being alone. Once you master this, you feel more confident with or without company. You become more independent and you don’t need others around you to be happy.
You do what you want to do…
When you go out by yourself, you do it for your experience and yours only. It’s hard to do things that you enjoy when you are always surrounded by other people who are pushing his or her own agenda. Once you decide to go at it alone, you will feel more free to do what you want to do.
You connect better…
Being alone will force you to view situations in a new way. You spend more time watching and listening and this helps you understand the people around you better. Being more of an observer allows you to be more effective connecting with other people.
You learn to like yourself more…
You are amazing and you don’t need validation from anyone else to confirm that. The more time you spend alone, the more you remind yourself of your value.
The more you understand how to love yourself, you won’t allow people in your life who do not fit.